Teen Dating - Warning Signs
The following is a list of signs common to abusive and battering personalities.
Though this list may not predict with absolute certainty, it is a good place to start.
Also visit the YWCA FVPP website.

Jealousy

• Is suspicious about everybody to whom you speak
• Wants to be with you constantly.
• Tries to turn you against your parents.

Controlling behaviors

• Tries to decide what you do and with whom you spend time.
• Gives orders and expects you to follow them.
• Hides controlling behavior behind pretending to be concerned about your safety.

Quick Involvement

• Pressures you to go steady right away.
• Claims love at first sight.

Unfair Expectations

• Expects you to put up with quickly changing moods.
• Expects you to be available all of the time.
• Expects you to forgive and forget immediately.

Isolation

• Discourages you from spending time with your friends.
• Puts down everyone you know including your family and friends.

Blames Others for Problems and Feelings

• If there are problems at school, or at work, it is always someone else's fault.
• Blames you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship.

Overly Sensitive

• Is easily insulted.
• Sees everything as personal attacks.
• Blows things out of proportion.

Force used in Sex

• Tries to make you to do things you do not want to do.
• Uses sulking or anger to manipulate you into "giving in."

Verbal Abuse

• Puts you down in front of other friends.
• Tries to make you feel stupid.

Rigid Sex Roles

• Believes males and females must act a certain way and do certain things.

History of Battering

• Was violent/abusive to partners in previous relationships.

Threats of Violence

• Breaks or strikes objects near you in order to frighten you.

Force used During an Argument

• Yells and curses during an argument in order to scare you into agreeing.

If, after going through this list, you hear yourself saying, "That's exactly what my partner does."
then you have reason to be concerned.
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